TIPS

  • Create your phone number as a vCard with your name to send to shadchanim.
  • Remember to focus on the date and building or feeling out chemistry. The venue or activity is agav.
  • You don’t have to kill time with empty conversation. You could talk about tachlis without being vulnerable.
  • Had a bad date at an arcade? Don’t feel bad. It’s pretty common. Arcade dates are tricky and they don’t always work. This is also true with some day dates.
  • Even though you have to start a date with icebreakers, don’t forget to get back into tachlis. You could spend four hours of the date talking about ice-breakers if you don’t refocus.
  • It’s important to be in touch with yourself and know what you need before entering shidduchim.*
  • Walk slowly. She might be wearing heels.
  • Stay positive. A bad date isn’t always a dead end; your date might have a friend they think is a better fit for you. (It happens all the time)*
  • Make sure to thank the waiter, hold open the door, etc. on a date; it shows that you think about others. *
  • Sometimes you may judge what your date does as socially inappropriate, be aware that it may just be a gender difference.*
  • Be respectful the entire date, even if you feel that it may not work out. This person is still a human being and has feelings.*
  • Never say anything negative about yourself or anyone in your family. – Rabbi Avigdor Miller*
  • Daven for Siyata Dishmaya. – Heard from my mother*

*Taken from / based on rebbetzins.org

TOPICS

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CONVERSATION TOPICS:

  • Family
  • Grandparents
  • Uncles, Aunts, Cousins
  • Her job
  • Parents’ jobs
  • Community
  • Shul
  • Friends
  • Summers
  • Camp
  • Family trips
  • Seminary
  • Israel
  • Winter Vacation
  • Hobbies
  • Reading
  • Sports
  • Chasunas
  • Music
  • Instruments
  • shopping
  • late nights
  • house layout
  • Shabbos & Yomim Tovim
  • Birthdays
  • Presents
  • Driving
  • Chavrusa Tumult
  • Food in yeshiva
  • Favorite speakers
  • School/College
  • CORONA! (goes without saying…)
HASHKAFA TOPICS:

  • Technology
  • Internet
  • (Movies)
  • Fashion
  • Learning vs working
  • Daas torah
  • Kids going off the derech
  • English in Mesivta
  • Newspapers
  • Following sports
  • Money
  • Smoking
  • Drinking
  • Living comfortably vs Kollel life
  • How long you expect her to work
  • Chinuch
  • Your relationship with your parents/Rabbeim
  • Goals in life
  • What kind of work you would like to go into
  • What line of work she would like to go in to
  • Why you want to get married

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