• Create your phone number as a vCard with your name to send to shadchanim.
  • Remember to focus on the date and building or feeling out chemistry. The venue or activity is agav.
  • You don’t have to kill time with empty conversation. You could talk about tachlis without being vulnerable.
  • Had a bad date at an arcade? Don’t feel bad. It’s pretty common. Arcade dates are tricky and they don’t always work. This is also true with some day dates.
  • Even though you have to start a date with icebreakers, don’t forget to get back into tachlis. You could spend four hours of the date talking about ice-breakers if you don’t refocus.
  • It’s important to be in touch with yourself and know what you need before entering shidduchim.*
  • Walk slowly. She might be wearing heels.
  • Stay positive. A bad date isn’t always a dead end; your date might have a friend they think is a better fit for you. (It happens all the time)*
  • Make sure to thank the waiter, hold open the door, etc. on a date; it shows that you think about others. *
  • Sometimes you may judge what your date does as socially inappropriate, be aware that it may just be a gender difference.*
  • Be respectful the entire date, even if you feel that it may not work out. This person is still a human being and has feelings.*
  • Never say anything negative about yourself or anyone in your family. – Rabbi Avigdor Miller*
  • Daven for Siyata Dishmaya. – Heard from my mother*

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